Tuesday, March 2, 2010

My thoughts on death and that sad feeling of loss

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What is it about death that we don't really want to talk about it? Death is a reality that can come to us at anytime but why are we sometimes so unwelcoming when we talk about it? In fact, I have been thinking about my previous post about death almost two years ago with a brave title that goes – Are you prepared to die? In all fairness, it was a post for All Soul's Day, so I was thinking maybe everybody had been very busy at that time to ever think about sharing their thoughts or comments or perhaps maybe my post just wasn't interesting enough.

The reality of death can really be a scary thing. We don't know when or how we are going to die. We also cry when someone we love dies. We cry because we associate death to losing someone or missing someone. Never did we think about our dead if they have felt any regrets for leaving this world.

Last week, we were told about a death of hubby's distant relative who once had the chance to come over to the house when hubby's grandmother came by for a short visit. Grandmother told us that a week before this distant relative died, she had been hinting about her death - like wanting to have all her laundry done that week because she wants everything else clean for some reason and wanting to pay the debt that she owed to a fish vendor because she said she does not want her soul to be bothered by any unpaid debts when she leaves this world. Hubby's grandmother said that she wouldn't have died if someone stopped her from hinting about her death. But for me, I believe that when it is time to go, it is time to go. What do you think?

You must be wondering why I am writing about death today. I was just sad to know that a high school friend's dad passed away. I know what it's like to have lost someone we love and it's a very, very sad feeling of loss – like something, that feeling of happiness, has just been emptied out from yourself that you really can't explain. I do not know how to comfort her because I myself felt sad about it. What is it about death that we aren't usually prepared to accept it, especially when it happens to someone we care about and love?

5 comments:

Graffiti said...

I'm not a religious man, but I do believe that matter cannot die, it cannot only convert to energy, and hopefully that applies to the carrier wave of consciousness too. My father died last week, I've been seeing him in my dreams, we chat, he tells me it's okay and I wonder if that's simply a coping mechanism. No one can tell this side of death - hope is blind belief - the truth - whatever it maybe - will come when we are gone.

Bchai said...

Jordan and I have a friend whose husband just passed away a week ago, and we're still in some mild shock as to why / how / when it happened. It gives us a reality check as to death can strike anytime, anywhere, and to anyone you know. I don't have any super deep thoughts on death, but I like to think that when it's time to go, then it's time.

So, don't ever take anything for granted and always live life as if the next day's your last.

jellybelly said...

I don't anyone is ever ready for the death of a loved one. Even through a lingering illness where death is inevitable. We can only pray and think that the person is in a better place.

meretrisha said...

@graffiti: so sorry for your loss. and thanks for sharing your thoughts. you're right, definitely we will know everything about it when we're gone
@bchai: thanks.. we'll definitely cherish each day with our loved ones.. as they say, nobody gets out of here alive hehehe
@jellybelly: thanks.. definitely prayers would help

Andrea-Memories As A Mom said...

I have heard that the soul often has a feeling when it is time to leave our bodies. It still scares me, though, not knowing when my time will be because I still have so much more I want to do. And, I especially don't want to lose anyone that I love! But I know that I am not the one in charge so I just have to trust that God knows the best time for people to go, even if it doesn't match up with what I'd prefer.

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