love love love... or unrequited love?

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Okay, this is February; so I guess I should write about love, love, love. Hmmmm, are you feeling mushy? Let's get my fingers typing now. How do I begin to write something about love? Oh well, I got a clearance from my brother to write something about his lovelife. Or should I say the love he never had? Hahaha.

I told him, maybe it wasn't love. Maybe it's an obsession with love. Well, let me kindly just rephrase it--maybe it's an obsession, period. But who are we to judge, anyway?

This younger brother of mine (he is 7 years younger), when it comes to one person, is probably the world's shyest person. Well, torpe would have been the most appropriate word for it but I don't know how to translate that in English. I tried to Google it but I am not satisfied with the translation. But anyhow, he probably had reasons for being so shy about his feelings at that time because he felt he was no fit for her, being just someone who didn't have anything to brag about. That was his perception about himself at that time but if you ask me--he should be proud just by being the person that he was and already is.

Okay, he really didn't tell me much about her except that she's a picture of perfection. She's this someone she calls his "ideal" girl. They do have one common love for sports – that's tennis! She's pretty, intelligent and simple. This girl really has some personality that I would really understand why my bro would fall for her. In fact, I think I was beginning to like her, too--for my brother, I mean.

But I don't know what went wrong--I guess she knew about my brother's feelings but brother dear can't seem to win her heart. Is this a case of unrequited love? Maybe. After all this time, brother J can't seem to move on. He tried to but all his relationships failed because somehow he would unintentionally compare his current gf to this "ideal" girl he couldn't or didn't have. Everytime he would receive a forwarded e-mail message from his "ideal" tennis girl, his heart would leap for joy and then it'd be back to square one—he'd fall all over again, even if they no longer see each other! Now, is he crazy or what? What must he do in order to move on? Or should he really move on? Maybe this is still an unfinished love story. Who knows? Er, what do you think? Hehehe, sometimes I really hate love and its complexities!

Comments

  1. BchaiFebruary 6, 2010 at 12:22 AM

    Are you friends with his "ideal" girl? LOL. Maybe you can arrange a date with just the two of them? Like dinner and a movie. I don't know. Or you could host a little dinner at your place with a few friends and invite her over.

    I know how you feel, because it's the same with my youngest brother, BJ. We keep hoping he'd find a girl, but he's too timid and somewhat unmotivated. At least your brother has his eye on someone!

    Maybe he should be a little more forward with her? Just a thought. He could call her up and see if she'd like to hang out...just the two of them. If your brother's anything like you, I'm sure she'd fall head over heels in love with him. He sounds like a great guy. ;)

    (She obviously doesn't know what she's missing, eh?)

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  2. meretrishaFebruary 6, 2010 at 12:32 AM

    i wish I knew the girl personally because all my advices to bro somehow didn't work.. i only knew the girl because she has a picture of her and he keeps telling me about her.. well, i saw her years ago, once - a few distance away when brother and i went to the mall... bro is in bahrain now and i dont know about the girl, she must still be in the phils..
    thanks, bchai.. that sure was a quick comment i got there (maybe it was still in draft mode when you were reading it, LOL)..

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  3. ShanixFebruary 6, 2010 at 1:34 PM

    hmmm, i can't further comment this one Mare, because it reminds me something....psst!

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  4. meretrishaFebruary 7, 2010 at 11:27 AM

    shanix: hmmm, quite intriguing! but i'll leave you in peace and won't pester you to expound more.. you are not sharing this, anyway, hekhek

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  5. AnonymousFebruary 8, 2010 at 1:06 PM

    Poor guy, that is tough! I do believe that it will get easier with time. . .it could be that he's just not ready for real love yet, but when he is he will fall in love with a woman who loves him back and he will realize that is so much better - the true ideal - and what he deserves!

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  6. meretrishaFebruary 9, 2010 at 9:14 AM

    thanks, Andrea. Hope he'll find his match pretty soon.

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  7. pearlFebruary 11, 2010 at 1:46 AM

    we always have our one true love but it doesn't follow that you get married to them though ... still, consider yourself lucky to find one ... and with that said, i say open your heart to possible prospects ;), and keep your one true love where she belongs (in mind and in heart) :)

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  8. Jason JohnFebruary 11, 2010 at 2:43 AM

    God is the Best director of our lovestory...

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  9. meretrishaFebruary 11, 2010 at 8:09 PM

    @pearl: 'open your heart to possible prospects, and keep your one true love in mind and in heart'? -- master, not sure about this..i don't know if it's right coz it would seem like love on the rebound (inspired by Kimerald's movie, LOL).. maybe it would make a great new post or discussion hehe..

    anyone here who wants to further comment on this? maybe it's time to close the issue

    &jason: bro, glad you've been reading all the comments.. hope you can pick up from the experts on love and relationships..
    btw, bro, if God is the director of the love story, listen to His words when he says, "CUT" or "ACTION", or "TAKE 2"!
    hahaha.. take care bro!

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  10. Jason JohnFebruary 12, 2010 at 1:39 AM

    I'm taking notes hahaha but yeah i don't need to worry about what tomorrow will bring and i believe in God's plans. I'm no longer the person that i was before. God already knew what is in my heart and i believe that he gives us what we need and not what we want. If it's not for me then it's not for me. Surely this is the lovestory i'll ever tell my kids. Thanks nang! this really means a lot to me! Takecare and Godbless!

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